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Bounded Church + A Reformation Shift = Less Character Development

For years, in the first class of my ethics course I included a section on character ethics. In recent years I included this quote by Rebecca Konyndyk DeYoung : “It’s very important to ask yourself, ‘Is this the right thing to do?’ That’s an important ethical question no doubt. But, it’s at least as important an ethical question to ask yourself, ‘If I do this thing today, and tomorrow, and the next day, and over and over again for the next five years, what kind of person will I become?’ And that’s a character question. So I do not want to reduce ethics to act-centric-only kind of thinking. . . This is a lifelong project of character building” (Mars Hill Audio, 150, 2021).

DeYoung recently moved me to a new level of interest in and conviction about character ethics in a podcast interview with Lee Camp (No Small Endeavor, 12/2023). She observed that in the Reformation, Protestants shifted from virtue-vice talk to commandment talk. I immediately made connections to bounded and centered. I have for years stated that bounded religiosity needs easily measured and relatively easily attained behaviors. So, bounded does not include character qualities or virtues in the line that defines who is in and who is out. DeYoung led me to a bigger issue.

A bounded approach combined with the Reformation shift to a legal/laws/rules focus does not just fail to emphasize virtues; it sets up a detour that pulls people away from character development. Sit with that for a moment.

I want to be careful to not overstate. In my bounded-church past there was talk not just of complying and being on the right side of the line, but of becoming a better Christian—character was part of that. But I now see more clearly that, combined with the Reformation law focus, the bounded paradigm undercut any emphasis on virtue development.

What energized me, however, was not just adding something new to my list of critiques of a bounded approach, but a greater appreciation for the potential of the centered approach to enable a flourishing of character development.

The centered approach and character ethics are a positive feedback cycle.  The centered approach facilitates a greater emphasis on virtues. And, since character development is a process, its journey nature reinforces the trajectory element at the heart of a centered approach.

The centered approach facilitates it, but the character emphasis and character growth are not automatic. Most of us have been saturated by the laws-oriented language flowing out of the Reformation. Our call is not just to nuance that language in centered ways, but to also increase our use of language of virtues and increase discipleship work focused on character development.

 What are some virtues mentioned in the Bible that we could seek to develop through centered discipleship?

 What are ways to shift focus and put more emphasis on character and virtue development?

 What are centered ways to aid people in character development?

 

Related insights from others:

When I shared the above insights with Dustin Maddox he said, something like, “Let’s think about the development of communal character, not just individual.” I felt two things. One, saddened and humbled at how strong the default to the individual is in me—in spite of emphasis in my teaching and writing to give more attention to the communal that is so present in the Bible. Second, excitement for the potential of a congregation working together to improve the character of the group. What are centered ways to work at improving corporate virtues?

 Recently I met with leaders of the Mosaic Mennonite Conference to discuss centered-set church. During a conversation on defining the center and dealing with disagreements about what should be part of the center, Rose Bender suggested making character qualities, like kindness, compassion, and curiosity part of the agreed upon center. I think it is a brilliant suggestion. If people are regularly reminded what makes up the center, then including character qualities in the center will do a number of things. One, it communicates that how we treat others is as important as beliefs we hold as central. Two, as stated above, it will be a constant reinforcement of the centered approach because character development is a process and not the stuff of bounded lines. Three, it facilitates the implementation of a centered approach because, as described in chapter seven of Centered-Set Church, these character elements are necessary for the flourishing of a centered-set approach.

 A thought I had while writing the above paragraph, by doing what I do in chapter seven, calling them character traits observed in Jesus, they make a natural fit as part of the center of a Jesus-centered church.

Posted on July 14, 2025 and filed under Character ethics, Centered-set church.

Developing Against-the-Current Character in Others Through the Questions We Ask

Adam Grant and Allison Sweet Grant do not address the church or discipleship in their article in The Atlantic. Still, their writing about parenting provides an excellent springboard to reflect on character development and discipleship. They report that over 90% of parents in the United States say that one of their top priorities is that their children be caring. Yet when you ask children about their parents’ desires, 81 percent say their parents value achievement and happiness over caring. The Grants write, “Kids learn what’s important to adults not by listening to what we say, but by noticing what gets our attention. . . Kids, with their sensitive antennae, pick up on all this. They see their peers being celebrated primarily for the grades they get and the goals they score, not for the generosity they show” (36).  The Grants started to observe themselves. They noted at the dinner table they frequently asked their children about accomplishments: Did your team win? How did the test go? They state:

 To demonstrate that caring is a core value, we realized that we needed to give it comparable attention. We started changing our questions. At our family dinners, we now ask our children what they did to help others. At first, “I forget” was the default reply. But after a while, they started giving more thoughtful answers. “I shared my snack with a friend who didn’t have one,” for example, or “I helped a classmate understand a question she got wrong on a quiz.” They had begun actively looking for opportunities to be helpful, and acting upon them. As parents, we’ve also tried to share our own experiences with helping—and to make a point of including the moments we’ve failed (36).

They comment, “The point is not to badger kids into kindness, or dangle carrots for caring, but to show that these qualities are noticed and valued” (37).

 In the article the Grants cite an annual survey of U.S. college students that showed a substantial drop in empathy from 1979-2009. (Reading that, reminded me of  Sherry Turkle stating empathy has declined even further in the smartphone era.) Love of neighbor and caring for others are central to following Jesus. The Grants’ article communicates an important reality: empathy, and the caring actions that flow from it, is increasingly becoming an against-the-current character trait. We cannot assume Jesus followers will necessarily have compassion for others simply because it is a common human character trait. Part of discipleship will be nurturing it.

 The Grants’ suggestion of asking questions that honor caring is helpful for this particular issue and in relation to children, but is has broader potential. Let us borrow the questions they suggest, but do more than that.

 What questions are we asking others in our Christian communities? What character values do we reinforce through these questions? What behaviors do we want to honor? How might we follow the Grants example and change the questions we ask—with children and adults? Let us thoughtfully intervene through questions and affirming comments that build disciples’ Christlike character and values.

 

Adam Grant and Allison Sweet Grant, “Stop Trying to Raise Successful Kinds and Start Raising Kind Ones,” The Atlantic (Dec. 2019): 36-37.

Posted on June 3, 2025 and filed under Character ethics, Discipleship.